Divorce is all about pain. There is no doubt about it. But can you focus on the other side? What does the after picture look like to you?

In the Western world we are so afraid of pain and discomfort. In China, a life well lived is considered to have had 10,000 happinesses and 10,000 sadnesses. Yin and Yang. In Asia it is an expectation that you will feel pain. It is a part of living.

I have a wonderful yoga instructor at my local YMCA. She really is a guru and her classes are as packed. It is just like you would imagine classes would be in India. Six inches from your neighbor is the requirement for matt placement so we can all fit in. The room gets very steamy and we do head stands and back bends and half the people are middle aged like me. She pushes people to think and change. We all get so much out of her classes. The result is like a happy pill. Peace and present mind. Her most recent class was about creation.  As we move through our Asana she chants for us “You are the creator and the creation, if you feel pain, modify. You are your own creator”.  Ok, I was upside down at the time but it struck me as so simple. If it hurts, change it. No fear, no expectations. Breath in breath out move on.

I just love yoga.