I live in a community property no fault state. When you go to divorce court they just slice everything down the middle. Ouch!

How am I going to make that work? My therapist is always trying to get me to visualize the life after husband scenario and the economics are a little bit of a stumbling block. I have worked hard to have some comforts. The reality is that some of these comforts will likely evaporate in the not so happily ever after that follows the happily ever after.

What do I do now? Lots of brainstorming for starters. I am thinking creatively about where I might like to live and what of my current life I can do without. I’m also looking at fun ways to supplement my income.

I’m also trying to find a win/win in my negotiations with my husband. If we can agree on how to divide our assets and not go to court we can save on attorney fees. I was quoted $10,000 to $15,000 for the messy divorce in attorney fees. Multiply that by two. The amicable divorce price tag is roughly $500 to have the paperwork filed by a legal service.

Amazing. Nice guys don’t always finish last.